“All my burned out ladies, put your hands up, up!”
I had a weird, left-field “wake up” moment today. Karmic recycling. You see, a ways back, I was burnt out.
“How do I know if I’m burnt out?” you ask?
See if any of these resonate for you…
The Sunday blues.
Nausea when you get certain emails, from certain people.
You feel either constant irritability/ fury/ fear, or…
You’re completely blasé - just not giving a damn the point of just not doing anything.
Resentment. You’re under-appreciated, undervalued, unseen and unheard.
Squirrel syndrome but only about work stuff. All. Day. Long.
You feel So. Darn. Tired. Yawwwwwn.
Just to name a few.
Things were getting worse…
As they tend to do when you’re burnt out.
(Ahem, especially when you know it’s time for a change and yet you’re not making it.)
These “pain” points are road signs
I imagine that I’m on a gigantic road trip of life and these “pain” points were road signs or GPS instructions that tell me an exit’s coming up that I need to take. The signs get bigger, bolder, brighter and less avoidable in order to get our attention - especially if we’ve made a wrong turn or stayed on the old road too long.
There I was, on the “road” and I kept getting these signs. More responsibility but less of a thrill. Everything started to feel like an obligation and I felt like a different person - someone I didn’t recognize and definitely didn’t like.
Rage AND indifference
Those same burnout symptoms we talked about above: Oscillations between irritability, rage and indifference. Resentment - big time - “I’m spending my life doing what?! For who?!” Procrastinating on important work. And frankly, a little salty.
I worked for “Dan” - let’s use that name to protect the innocent. “Dan” was an easy target to blame - as bosses usually are. All that work you resent? It comes from your boss. All those political dynamics that make you sick? Your boss drives those.
GIANT, FLASHING, FLARING ROAD SIGN
Dan, for better and worse, was a messenger in my life. He literally told me, “I’m never going to promote you. You’re too good at what you do.”
It’s not your job’s job to give you purpose. It’s not your boss’s job to make you happy. You are the ONLY one who can heal your burnout. Surviving burnout and thriving afterwards is on you.
Dan wasn’t my GPS. He wasn’t driving the car or making the decisions - I was the one who had been acting, reacting and taking in-action.
So I made a change
It wasn’t overnight but it was rapid. I dove into self-coaching, visualization and failing forward on a strategic plan with mentors and training. I made decisions and pattern-busting changes that brought me back to my-self in new and better ways. Healthier. Whole. And joyful. My relationships got better. My career skyrocketed. I felt time, financial and emotional freedom. I was able to give, liberally in ways that lit me up.
My life was Whole Self-Care’s beta launch and it ROCKED.
I was hooked. I knew I was onto something BIG.
Now, today, I’m not “burnt” out but there are constantly new little fires kindled that could take me there again.
So today, when I called my client “Dan” (his name is NOT Dan), I felt a check in my spirit.
Am I letting the old patterns I lived in my “Dan” chapter be my default?
Am I neglecting road signs?
Am I relying on someone else to give me purpose or joy?
There are many exciting things percolating in my current “road trip” planning but in the meantime…
Here are two super small, super doable right-this-very-minute steps of my personal Burnout Survival Protocol - the Whole Self-Care program - that I’m doing TODAY to make sure “Dan” is not driving my thoughts and decisions.
I included my actual examples but encourage you to answer these for yourself too.
What 3 things can I do (realistically) today that help me LIVE my dream and my purpose?
Email my new friend and share what I can do for her organization
Get coached on mindset around business growth and development
Write this here bloggy post
What 3 things can I do today to take care of myself physically, mentally, emotionally?
Drink enough water that I have to get up and pee at least 4 times while I’m at work
Stop eating at 7 PM (including snacks and wine)
Tell Brian I love him in 3 different ways - face to face, email and text (awwww, I know)
With so much love, joy and gratitude,
Tarah Keech | firstname.lastname@example.org
P.S. What are your 3 things?
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